Things will irritate us, we all know that. Our boss. Traffic. Dropped calls. We can easily name dozens more of life's little annoyances that drive all of us crazy. It is how we deal with them that makes the difference.
When we get bothered by these things, we snap out of what I call our "place of peace." That is the state in which we feel good, happy, fulfilled and calm. It is the time when nothing bothers us and things seem to go our way, and if they don't, that is fine too. We are more open, creative, giving, and connected with others. It is the place in which I try to always live my life, but in those moments I get bumped out of my "place of peace" I turn to the following method to get me back there faster.
Ask yourself if you are hungry or tired. Those two states can greatly affect how we see the world and respond to it. If so, grab a snack or take a nap. Otherwise, read on.
Put things in perspective. You are in a hurry to finish shopping at the grocery store, and the checkout line is 15 customers long. You feel yourself starting to get anxious and impatient. You wonder why the store manager has not opened another checkout lane. You are irritated! STOP. Ask yourself, really, how big is this in the grand scheme of things? If paying takes five more minutes, how much of an impact is that going to have on the rest of your day? Talk yourself down from the cliff, put down the BBQ tongs, and relax. Use this time to think about positive things in your life or to call a friend you have been meaning to catch up with. I promise you the line will seem to move faster while you are on the phone.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
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